I
have been reflecting lately about how it is that an alcoholic or
addict can be helped to become willing to seek recovery whether through
12 Step meetings or other path to recovery. I recently read an article written by Bill Wilson,
AA's co-founder, in 1944, that describes, at least in part, what helps
the process of being willing to recover using 12 Step principles. I
will first summarize what Bill Wilson said and then give some
quotations from the text of the article he wrote. Bill Wilson says in
effect that the alcoholic or addict must be convinced that the choice
facing him/her is to continue drinking or drugging or go insane or die.
In other words, the user needs to develop a state of mind that his/her
drinking or drugging predicament is hopeless, that he/she has no way
out; that he/she has hit bottom. Here is some of Bill's own language in
which he states in the 1944 article that:
"...alcoholism is a
complex malady; that abnormal drinking is but a symptom of personal
maladjustment to life; that, as a class, we, alcoholics are apt to be
sensitive, emotionally immature, grandiose in our demands upon ourselves
and others; that we have usually 'gone broke' on some dream ideal of
perfection; that, failing to realize the dream, we sensitive folk escape
cold reality by taking to the bottle; that this habit of escape
finally turns into an obsession, or ***a compulsion to drink so subtly
powerful that no disaster, however great, even near death or insanity,
can, in most cases, seem to break it; that we are the victims of the
age-old alcoholic dilemma; our obsession guarantees that we shall go on
drinking, but our increasing physical sensitivity guarantees that we
shall go insane or die if we do."
He further said: "When these
facts are poured by an AA member into the person of another alcoholic
they strike deep - the effect is shattering. That inflated ego, those
elaborate rationalizations by which our neurotic friend has been trying
to erect self-sufficiency on a foundation of inferiority, begin to
ooze out of him. Sometimes his deflation is like the collapse of a toy
balloon at the approach of a hot poker. But deflation is just what we
AA’s are looking for. It is our universal experience that unless we can
start deflation, as a self-realization, we get nowhere at all. The
more utterly we can smash the delusion that the alcoholic can get over
alcoholism 'on his own', or that someday he may be able to drink like a
gentleman, the more successful we are bound to be. In fact, we aim to
produce a crisis, to cause him to 'hit bottom' as AA’s say.
***...[O]nce he has accepted the fact that he is an alcoholic and the
further fact that he is powerless to recover unaided, the battle is
half won. As the AA’s have it, 'he is hooked.' "
That language
seems to me to capture the state of mind needed for some alcoholics or
addicts to be open to recovery. Unfortunately, there are some who seem
to understand their hopeless state but are unwilling or unable,
probably the latter, to accept help. As always comments are invited.
Jan Edward Williams, 06/05/2013.
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